Middle aged single women desparate to get hitched.

It is said that marriage is every girls's dream.
I really dont get why most single middle aged women I know are so desparate for marriage.
Its not a race thing middle aged women wanna get hitched thats that.
Recently I was called by this lady who said she had a story to share, on the phone she sounded like a raped little girl.
I could hear her dying inside just by listening to her voice over the phone.
I finally made it to her house, she is a fifty something year old.
She was so restless, she went from sweeping the floor to tidying up in her lounge (which was so unnesessary).
She finally sat down and the first thing that came out was the words "I am done with men Asiphe"
I thought she had been raped.
But I learned that she slept with a guy she knew for a few weeks and sadly he left her after promising her marriage.
I am not sure she why she was so upset, was the fact that she allowed him to sleep with her without using protection or was it because he did all that and had left her.
She showed me numerous sms's where she is telling him to get tested with her.
But why would you want to get tested with someone who left you?
I drew my own conclusions.. This lady exposed herself to HIV/AIDS because she wanted marriage.
I dont know why I judged her maybe its because I dont get why you would sleep with someone you have known a few weeks and on top of that not use a condom.
I say she is desperate because she told me how she met him, It was not a very natural meeting.
See this lady saw a group of men and told her friends she is looking for a man and we all know men dont let such an opportunity go by.
He got it on with her and disappeared after the dance. It is really sad what women would rather face than be alone, some would rather be beaten, cheated on and even have their kids raped by this man ,they endure everything for the sake of having a husband.
Maybe my being raised by a single parent is the reason why I feel this way.
But I can only imagine what life would be like at home if we had a father.
Honestly I have never seen a married man laugh and watch soapies with his kids.
A man who would protect his family and be faithful to his wife.
The fear of being alone in women is very dangerous... it destroys lives.

When the bully victim fights back

That one boy at your church that was bullied in the bus.
The boy whom everyone loves
He is good with kids and very smart, well a few years ago he told me he had a crush on me HAHAHA it was the sweetest thing ever.
I told spoke to him about bit and made him understand I am older than him
He plays the drums and often a character in one of our church plays.
Athi is a comedian even if he doesnt say a thing.
You would leave your kids with him and come back to find them entertained during the holiday Club.
I got to church and noticed he wasnt there but I thought he was with the kids.
I couldnt hold my taers in when my Pastor prayed for his mother saying he hopes everything goes well with Athi.
I had so many questions and couldnt wait for the last Amen, it was not the curiousity of the Journalist in me.
It was the concern of a sister.
I found out that he had killed a boy in self defence, the other boy being one of the many who bullied him and his friends on their way to and from church.
Instead of feeling sorry for the deceased and his family I cried so hard for Athi, I couldnt believe such a nice and happy boy underwent such trauma.
I couldnt wait to see him but I found out he was moved to another City.
A week later he visited his mom and I saw him in church I wanted to talk to him but I knew that I would be left with tears.
A second later I felt a sharp pain in my eye, It was a tear drop wanting so bad to exit my eye and they followed one after the other.
 I didnt know what to say to him I cannot even remember what he asked me but I gave him a thumbs up.

In other News on the 19 March 2013; Gugulethu police issued a statement about a fatal fight which claimed the life of a boy who is said to have been a bully. 

"We have established that these boys argued because the deceased always bullies them. At this stage nothing shows that the suspect and the deceased are linked to any gang activities. The suspect has open stab wound alleging that he was stabbed with a scissor by the deceased."

 

Do I stand a chance in this Industry..

Its been 8 months into the Industry and I am loving it but I have to admit being a Journalist is scary.
People expect you to be all serious and angry at the World, the President, Police and every other thing.
There are just those of us who are not easily angered.. we are born happy does that make us bad people.
I never knew commenting on a status would upset me that much.
It was a post about the recent Daveyton case where Police assaulted a Taxi driver from Mozambique.
A print Journalist friend of mine posted expressing her displeasure on the matter , "They saw the crowd filming it and they continued assauting him," she wrote.
And I followed with a "lol they are idiots" and little did I know that a Tv Journalist would be disgusted by my "lol" in the comment, she couldnt understand how I would be LAUGHING OUT LOUD after such a tragic.
I hated how she made me feel, I felt so useless and unsure whethere I should be here or not.
She was not infront of me but I could sense that she was really mad at me.
I felt defeated I kept thinking about it over and over again, But since when do we have to laugh at the same things.. Why was I Laughing Out loud anyway?
I dont know but I did , its probably because I dont say anything without a smile on face.
Is this still the place for me?
I will have to stick around and find out.

New Beginnings.

Its been two months into the New Year and I feel guilty for not having posted anything yet.
You made new years resolutions and probably forgot them by now hahaha but thats life.
If like me you set some goals and challenges for yourself good luck those are not easily forgotten.
2012 as awesome we made new friends and enemies but its all good.
And I think I found love, "He was" now is.
The year is still young no need to feel guilty, I failed my very first test in life this year and that has kept me going.
Part of my plans for this year was to try and attend church as often  as I can, but the last time I was there was on Christmas.(I went, did you?)
As much as I am not a fashion writer, I urge you to stay away from, colour blocking and WrtInG lIkE tHiS!.